Rant about dating rules

After having been doing this for a while, I still do not know how dating actually works. Why are there so many rules and constraints? Why aren't people simply allowed to be themselves from the get go? They pretend to be someone else until they get comfortable with this person who they have been dating, then they start acting like themselves but to the other person, you changed. Now deal with it. But they cant be true and honest in the first place, cause we are so quick to judge. And not just judge but do things based on those initial judgements. Do we as humans operate better under pressure? Do we like to make up situations where we are not comfortable just so we can make ourselves feel the false sense of accomplishment after these situations go away? So instead of letting people go through the test of time, we just make our own tests. Most people fail these miserably anyways, so whats the points? As an example, the lame three day rule. Why should a guy have to wait three days to talk to someone he is interested in? Is this a way for us to know if you feel a certain way or just a tease? Or is it to ensure that you are not falling into the traps of instant gratification? I do want to take a minute here and complain about instant gratification. I feel that IG is just like junk food. So good but so bad for you. How much of it should we indulge in? Are there ever times when it is actually good for you? Fries for example make me feel better when I am emotionally distraught, but does the same equate to having men in my life? ......To be Completed.....